How to Handle a Jealous Boyfriend
It’s never easy to deal with a possessive or jealous boyfriend. Being in love with someone who is prone to turning green with envy is a common issue.
It can have a negative impact on otherwise wonderful relationships and create impassable roadblocks.
Worse, it can appear out of nowhere, taking you from perfectly content to doing damage control. In this section, we’ll go over how to deal with a jealous partner in a relationship.
1. Never deny it
It’s easier to put off a problem and avoid facing it than it is to face it head on. Relationships are difficult, as is communicating in them, but it is the only way to grow.
First and foremost, you must accept your partner’s insecurity and devise proactive solutions to address it rather than unproductive arguments. He can’t deny this fact about himself at the same time. Finding a way for both of you to accept it is critical if you want to move on.
2. Pay attention
It’s easy to talk to each other, but the most important part of this conversation is listening to and understanding someone else’s point of view.
This will allow you to better understand the source of his jealousy without making him feel judged. You might be able to handle it better in the future if you understand why he turns green with envy.
3. Walk Away
If you don’t feel valued in the relationship, you have every right to leave. There’s nothing you can do if your partner is having irrational thoughts unless you’ve given them a reason to doubt your relationship.
That is ultimately their baggage, and you deserve to be with someone who can fully trust you if you have deemed yourself trustworthy. You can also issue a deadline.
4. Maintain openness and honesty
If you’re hiding something from him or lying about it, even the smallest white lies can help confirm his insecurity and allow him to spiral even further.
Hiding things (in any relationship) causes tension, so avoid surprises and blowing up fights by being completely open and honest in your relationships. This includes how you feel, even if the truth is difficult to bear. This also entails involving him in more aspects of your life, which can aid in the reduction of paranoia.
5. Communication
In this case, yelling and fighting will not get you anywhere. Jealousy frequently occurs when a jealous person is triggered and is focusing on a past situation and emotion rather than the present.
Fighting will only make him fearful that you’ll leave him, but being assertive rather than aggressive can help change his mind.
6. Establish boundaries
Ground rules, also known as boundaries, are essential in any relationship. You and your partner can establish these ground rules early on to avoid pressing each other’s buttons.
It’s also an important way to establish respect between the two of you and shows that you genuinely care about each other. If you can respect his boundaries while being jealous, it should be a two-way street when it comes to any of his problematic behavior.
7. Compliment him and prove his worth to him
Because a jealous man is often insecure, showing him what you like about him can help to solve the problem. Hearing compliments and seeing the good qualities in him will help him see them in himself.
With a new sense of self-assurance, he may feel less threatened and become less jealous over time.
8. Remind him that you are not his ex-girlfriend
Jealousy frequently occurs when someone is triggered by a past event. If he is afraid of you cheating on him or lying, it could be because she has previously cheated on him and is reliving that relationship.
You can always reassure him that the present is not the past and that you are not his ex-girlfriend.
9. Avoid playing games
Although you may believe that you are not to blame for this problem (and you may be correct), consider the following questions: Do you flirt with other men? Have you ever tried to make him jealous by complimenting or checking out other guys while your man is present? Do you constantly bring up your ex?
10. As a last resort, use reverse psychology
If you’ve tried everything above and still can’t get him to see your point of view, consider flipping the script on him. React in the same way he does when his jealousy arises.
Essentially, roleplay as him. If he appears bothered, tell him that you are bothered when he behaves similarly. Perhaps this will help him see his irrational behavior outside of his own perspective.
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How to Handle a Jealous Boyfriend
